Monday, April 30, 2012

The Beat Goes On

The Beat Goes On.....
Written by: Sonny Bono

BigMud like this song. Born in the 1920's BigMud survived many hardships and was in a World War! By the 1960's society was changing and there many things BigMud never thought he would have to do. Like, trying to keep a free spirit of a  hippie daughter from hurting herself all in the name of "Peace, Love & Understanding!" lolololololololol!!!
Anyway, He would say "The beat goes on....."  anytime he didn't really get it.....

The beat goes on, the beat goes on
Drums keep pounding a rhythm to the brain
La de da de de, la de da de da

Charleston was once the rage, uh huh
History has turned the page, uh huh
The mini skirts the current thing, uh huh
Teenybopper is our newborn king, uh huh

The beat goes on, the beat goes on
Drums keep pounding a rhythm to the brain
La de da de de, la de da de da
The grocery store's the super mart, uh huh
Little girls still break their hearts, uh huh
And men still keep on marching off to war
Electrically they keep a baseball score

The beat goes on, the beat goes on
Drums keep pounding a rhythm to the brain
La de da de de, la de da de da

Grandmas sit in chairs and reminisce
Boys keep chasing girls to get a kiss
The cars keep going faster all the time
Bums still cry "hey buddy, have you got a dime"

The beat goes on, the beat goes on
Drums keep pounding a rhythm to the brain
La de da de de, la de da de da

You Should Know! US Deploys F-22's

US deploys F-22 fighter jets to UAE: officials

  • An F-22 Raptor. The United States has deployed sophisticated F-22 fighter jets to the United Arab Emirates amid deepening tensions between Iran and its pro-US neighbors, officials said Monday. (AFP Photo/Jason Smith)
    An American F-22 Raptor 

The United States has deployed sophisticated F-22 fighter jets to the United Arab Emirates amid deepening tensions between Iran and its pro-US neighbors, officials said Monday.

The US officials, speaking on condition of anonymity, would not say how many F-22s would be sent to the Al-Dhafra air base in the United Arab Emirates. Military officers tend to avoid publicly discussing details of operations at the US air base.

An Air Force spokeswoman confirmed that a number of F-22 Raptors, the most advanced fighter in the US fleet, would be deployed to the region without mentioning the base or Iran.

"The United States Air Force has deployed F-22s to Southwest Asia. Such deployments strengthen military-to-military relationships, promote sovereign and regional security, improve combined tactical air operations, and enhance interoperability of forces, equipment and procedures," said Major Mary Danner-Jones.

Pentagon spokesman Captain John Kirby told reporters the move "was a very normal deployment" in keeping with an adjustment of US forces in the region following the withdrawal of American troops from Iraq.
Territorial disputes between Iran and the United Arab Emirates over three islands in the Gulf have flared recently, with Washington voicing support for Abu Dhabi's stance.

The argument over the Gulf islands comes against the backdrop of tensions surrounding Iran's nuclear program, with the US, European and Israeli governments fearing Tehran is pursuing a clandestine nuclear weapons project.

Iran's atomic ambitions and growing missile arsenal have raised concerns in Gulf Arab states, which have negotiated arms deals with Washington to build up missile defenses as a counter to Iran.

In December, the United States announced a $3.48 billion arms sale with the United Arab Emirates for missile defense batteries and radars.

HOW IS THIS HELPING ANYONE?????

WHY DID THE US SALE $3.48 BILLION IN ARMS TO THE UNITED ARAB EMIRATES?????

BECAUSE, OUR GOVERNMENT CANNOT DISCOVER A WAY TO LIVE WITHOUT OIL!
THAT'S RIGHT FOLKS, I THINK THEY KILL OUR KIDS FOR THE OIL!

CHILDREN FIGHT MEN'S WARS!
STOP KILLING OUR KIDS!!!!!

Greg Allman - I'm No Angel Lyrics

Greg Allman
I'm No Angel lyrics


No I`m no angel
No I`m no stranger to the street
I`ve got my label
So I won`t crumble at your feet
And I know baby
So I`ve got scars upon my cheek
And I`m half crazy
Come on and love me baby

So you find me hard to handle
Well, I`m easier to hold
So you like my spurs that jingle
And I never leave you cold
So I might steal your diamonds
I`ll bring you back some gold
I`m no angel.
No I`m no angel
No I`m no stranger to the dark
Let me rock your cradle
Let me start a fire with your spark
Oh come on baby
Come and let me show you my tattoo
Let me drive you crazy
Come on and love me baby

So you don`t give a darn about me
I never treat you bad
I won`t ever lift a hand to hurt you
and I`ll always leave you glad
So I might steal your diamonds
I`ll bring you back some gold
I`m no angel.

No I`m no angel
No I`m no stranger to the dark
Let me rock your cradle
Let me start a fire in your heart
Oh come on baby
Come and let me show you my tattoo
Let me drive you crazy
Come on and love me baby

Well come on baby.

Drive me crazy.

Drive me crazy.

Come on baby.

Come on baby.

Oh come on baby.

Tumultuous! Gregg Allman

Exclusive Book Excerpt: Gregg Allman's 'My Cross to Bear'

In an excerpt from his new memoir published in the May 10th issue of Rolling Stone, Gregg Allman tells of surviving tragedy, heroin and a tumultuous relationship with Cher. In this preview, Allman describes his first, terrible date with the singer.
She smelled like I would imagine a mermaid would smell – I've never smelled it since, and I'll never forget it. It was January 1975, and I was playing a solo show at the Troubadour in Los Angeles. After the show, my buddy Chank ran up to me, going, "Guess who's here?"
"Who?" I asked.
"I want you to just ease over that railing and look to your right."
There she was, man: Cher. I couldn't believe how beautiful she was. I got my guitar and headed down toward her. Cher showed up with David Geffen as her date. I had met Geffen on many occasions before, but I didn't acknowledge him at all – or anyone else, for that matter. I was so rude; I didn't say hello or nothing at all, because I was so blinded by her.

I was walking by, and she was down on the floor looking for something. She looked up and said, "Oh, I lost my earring." Then she said, "Here's my number – call me."
The next day, I asked her out to dinner. I went to her house in a limousine, and when she came out, she said, "Fuck that funeral car," and handed me the keys to her blue Ferrari. We went to a Moroccan restaurant on Sunset, and we sat there, eating with our hands with the sitars playing. She didn't have shit to say to me, and I didn't have shit to say to her. What's the topic of conversation? It certainly ain't singing.

I said to her, "I've got a friend who lives up in the Hills, and his wife is Judy Carne." Cher knew Judy, who used to be on Laugh-In, from years before, but she didn't realize that Judy was into heroin. We got up to Judy's house, and I had just a little taste of doojee. I nodded out in the bathroom for 20 minutes or so, while Cher was out in the living room with Judy, who's also nodding out. I came out of there and asked her, "OK, toots, what else would you like to do?"

"I want to get the fuck out of here as fast as I can," she said.

I called her the next day and said, "Wait, before you say anything – that was possibly the worst fucking date in the history of mankind. We might be ready for the Guinness Book of World Records." She agreed with me, so I said, "Well, listen, seeing how it was so bad, why don't we try it again, because it can only go better this time?"

We went dancing. I don't know how to dance, but I got drunk enough to where I did. I danced my ass off. This is when disco was just taking off, so we did some dirty dancing. She had one drink, while I had my 21, of course. When we got back to her place, she took me out to her rose garden, and all the roses were just starting to bloom.

From the forthcoming book "My Cross to Bear," by Gregg Allman with Alan Light. Copyright 2012 by Gregg Allman. To be published on May 1st by William Morrow, an imprint of HarperCollins Publishers.
For an expanded excerpt, read the May 10th Issue of Rolling Stone.

Oh No She Didn't!!!!!

Dentist pulls out all of her ex-boyfriend’s teeth after split!


If you're planning a trip to the dentist, it might not be the wisest decision to make your appointment with the person you just broke up with.
A Polish woman is facing three years in prison after she removed all of her ex-boyfriend's teeth during dental surgery just days after their breakup.
"I tried to be professional and detach myself from my emotions," Anna Mackowiak, 34, told the Austrian Times. "But when I saw him lying there I just thought, 'What a bastard' and decided to take all his teeth out."
Marek Olszewski, 45, reportedly showed up at Mackowiak's dental office complaining of toothache just days after he broke up with her. She then allegedly gave him a "heavy dose" of anesthetic, locked the door and began removing all of his teeth one at a time.
"I knew something was wrong because when I woke up I couldn't feel any teeth and my jaw was strapped up with bandages," Olszewski said.
"She told me my mouth was numb and I wouldn't be able to feel anything for a while and that the bandage was there to protect the gums, but that I would need to see a specialist," he said.
"I didn't have any reason to doubt her, I mean I thought she was a professional."
Adding to his trauma, Olszewski said his new girlfriend has already left him over his now toothless appearance.
"And I'm going to have to pay a fortune on getting indents or something," he said.

Mackowiak is currently being investigated for medical malpractice.

Now this is TRUE mudinyoureye!

Thursday, April 26, 2012

Traci Lords, I like this Gal!

Biography forTraci Lords

Traci Lords
Date of Birth
7 May 1968, Steubenville, Ohio, USA 
Birth Name
Nora Louise Kuzma
Height
5' 7" (1.70 m)
Mini Biography
Traci Lords is a study of a determined and complex woman with a very controversial background. Born and raised in Ohio as Nora Louise Kuzma, she moved with her divorced mother and three sisters to Los Angeles at age 12. She ran away from home and began nude modeling at age 15, then adult films a year later.

An incredibly developed, full-figured girl, she easily duped photographers, producers and directors (with the help of a false birth certificate and driver's license). Her stage name is a combination of Traci, from a former school friend, and Lords, in honor of her favorite male actor, Jack Lord ("Hawaii Five-O" (1968)). She later owned a white Persian cat named Mr. Steve McGarrett, the name of the character Lord played on the show. Traci made somewhere between 80 and 100 X-rated movies (some consisted mostly of leftover footage from previous shoots) between 1984 and 1986.

In May 1986 she was arrested by FBI agents when it was discovered she was underage, which meant that any films with her in them were illegal to rent or buy, and video stores around the country rushed to remove them. The only legal porn movie Traci made was Traci, I Love You (1987) (V), which was filmed in Paris, France, on her 18th birthday. Since she controlled distribution rights, many people believed she orchestrated the revelation herself so she could be the only one to profit from her X-rated career. Many within the adult film industry made a tacit agreement to never promote Traci or talk about her, as they felt she betrayed the industry that had had been the source of her fame in the first place. The federal government tried to prosecute the producers of the movie Those Young Girls (1984) (V), the first adult film Traci appeared in, for child pornography. However, the case fell apart when the government admitted that it, too, had been duped when Lords traveled to Europe to shoot Traci, I Love You (1987) (V) on a fake passport. After her exile from adult films, she began to resurrect her life and fulfill her lifelong ambition to star in "mainstream" films.

In 1987 she enrolled in the Lee Strasberg acting school, began voice lessons and built on her natural acting talents. Her first mainstream "break" came in Not of This Earth (1988), a remake of the classic Roger Corman sci-fi film from the 1950s. It was the last time that Traci would bare her breasts for the camera. Rare footage of a scene where she exits a shower has been seen as an outtake--Traci walks out of the shower, warning the cameramen to get ready to get the best look they could at her naked body. She jokes while draping the towel around her waist, turning her exposed chest to the camera, and then covers up. Her roles in subsequent films would see her placed in situations where there was much more left to the imagination than could actually be seen on screen for a public that only a few years earlier had seen virtually every facet of this beautiful girl.

Throughout the 1990s her hard work got her a reputation as a reliable and respected actress, in addition to being a singer and an advocate for gay rights. Her recurring role in early 1995 as a sneering sociopath, Rikki, on "Melrose Place" (1992) was critically acclaimed and landed her more roles in other movies, playing villains and psychotic characters. In the latter half of the 1990s she appeared in several B movies that went straight to video and/or cable in lead, minor or cameo roles. She even guest-starred in a number of TV shows ranging from "Married with Children" (1987), "Roseanne" (1988), "MacGyver" (1985) and "Nash Bridges" (1996).

She has always despised being referred to as "an ex-porn star", and resents the fact that a celebrity like Tim Allen can be forgiven by Hollywood for past transgressions (he was convicted and served prison time selling drugs while he was in college) but she still to this day bears the stigma of her porn years. It's probably the fantasy of the underage girl who fooled an entire industry, and, at the height of her career, was unquestionably the most popular actress with fans and filmmakers alike.

Some of her most notable TV work was as a regular on season 2 of "Profiler" (1996) from 1997 to 1998 in playing the schizo-sicko serial killer Sharon Lesher, as well as the tough heroine Jordan Radcliffe during the last season of the sci-fi series "First Wave" (1998) from 2000 to 2001. She most recently has written her autobiography, published in 2003, and even tried her hand in writing and directing a short film which would lead her to another career as a writer-director of independent films.
IMDb Mini Biography By: Shapster

Spouse
Jeff Gruenewald (23 February 2002 - present) 1 child
Ryan Granger (26 June 1999 - 1 February 2000) (divorced)
Brook Yeaton (29 September 1990 - 1 January 1996) (divorced)

Trivia
"Traci" comes from her girlfriend's name, "Lords" from Jack Lord ("Hawaii Five-O" (1968)).
Strong supporter of gay rights.
Was the centerfold model for the same issue of Penthouse Magazine that "exposed" Miss America 1984, Vanessa Williams. Because she was underage, it was illegal to own or trade that issue unless the pictorial of Ms. Lords was removed.
Penthouse Pet of the Month - September 1984
Had her name legally changed to Traci Elizabeth Lords.
Husband Jeff Lee is a union ironworker.
Her father, Louis Kuzma, is an immigrant from Ukraine. Her mother, Patricia Briceland, is of Scandanavian descent.
Has 1st KYU in Bujinkan Ninjutsu.
She is easily the most successful of former porn stars to make a transition to mainstream movies.
She contributed vocals to the Manic Street Preachers song "Little Baby Nothing," from the Welsh group's "Generation Terrorists" album in 1992, and released as a single in November of that year. The song is about the sexual exploitation of a woman and singer/guitarist James Dean Bradfield said that "we needed somebody, a symbol, a person that could actually symbolize the lyrics and justify them to a certain degree. Traci was more than happy to do it. She saw the lyrics, and she had an immediate affinity with them. It was definitely easy to incorporate her personality into the lyrics. We just wanted a symbol for it, and I think she was a great symbol." Traci said that "I listened to the tape and really identified with the character in the song...this young girl who's been exploited and abused by men all her life."
A bra worn by Traci (from her relationship with ex-fiancé John Enos III) sold at auction on eBay for $80.00 in April, 2007.
Son, Joseph Gunnar Lee, born October 7, 2007. He weighed 6 pounds, 14 ounces.
Was almost cast as the female lead in Martin Scorsese's Casino (1995), but lost out to Sharon Stone.
Appeared as one of the celebrity models in a charity fashion show staged by Thierry Mugler to benefit AIDS Project Los Angeles. [April 1992]

Personal Quotes
[asked about her role as Jordan Radcliffe on "First Wave" (1998)] I jokingly refer to it as the DKNY Militia because she always looks great. When she's battling the aliens, she's always got the best leather pants on.
My parents never got along. It was a very ugly scene to be a part of.
I'm successful in spite of my past, not because of it!
[about her porn career] No one put a gun to my head and said "you have to do this."
[about her porn career] I was really young, I was really stupid about some things.
I hate the phrase "former porn queen." That part of my life was a long time ago. Think of something else to call me... I'm successful in spite of my past, not because of it.

John Carter of Mars

John Carter of Mars, Walt Disney Studio

I went to the movies today & saw John Carter of Mars. What a great movie! Don't listen to the critics, go & see it. Special Effects were very imaginative, The Music was original & preformed by an orchestra!

This is a story by Edgar Rice Burroughs, the Tarzan guy! Silly me, I didn't know he wrote anything else but Tarzan.

This is a good Adventure Story with a good amount of action & not so much romance as to make it sappy. I don't know if the movie is Academy Award good but I think Disney Studios made a good movie!

I liked this movie so much that I did a little research, Check it out!
 Princess of Mars Poster
Did you know that this story had already been made into a movie. Yes, in 2009 co-staring Traci Lords! Remember her? Back in the day she was the under aged porn star!

But, look close. This movie claims to have inspired Avatar! I didn't hear that either.
I am going to look for Princes of Mars & compare the two.



Mini Biography:

Date of Birth
1 September 1875, Chicago, Illinois, USA

Date of Death
19 March 1950, Encino, California, USA (heart attack)

Mini Biography:

His father had been a major in the Union army during the Civil War. Edgar Rice Burroughs attended the Brown School then, due to a diphtheria epidemic, Miss Coolie's Maplehurst School for Girls, then the Harvard School, Phillips Andover and the Michigan Military Academy. He was a mediocre student and flunked his examination for West Point. He worked a variety of jobs all over the country: a cowboy in Idaho, a gold miner in Oregon, a railroad policeman in Utah, a department manager for Sears Roebuck in Chicago. He published "A Princess of Mars" under the title "Under the Moons of Mars" in six parts between February and July of 1912. The same "All-Story Magazine" put out his immediately successful "Tarzan of the Apes" in October of that year. Two years later the hardback book appeared, and on January 27, 1918, the movie opened on Broadway starring Elmo Lincoln as Tarzan. It was one of the first movies to gross over $1,000,000. Burroughs was able to move his family to the San Fernando Valley in 1919, converting a huge estate into Tarzana Ranch. He was in Pearl Harbor December 7, 1941 and remained in Hawaii as a war correspondent. Afterward he returned home with a heart condition. On March 19, 1950, alone in his home after reading the Sunday comics in bed, he died. By then he had written 91 novels, 26 of which were about Tarzan.

The man whose books have sold hundreds of millions of copies in over thirty languages once said "I write to escape ... to escape poverty".

OMG!!!!!!! Abortion Rationalization!

I'm childless at 42 and haunted by the baby I aborted at 18

By KATE SPICER

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Regrets: Kate Spicer wonders if she should have become a teen mum instead of aborting her baby
Regrets: Kate Spicer wonders if she should have become a teen mum instead of aborting her baby

Setting out from my home in sleepy Devon, I catch the bus into the nearest big town, where none of the chemists know my family, and buy two expensive pregnancy tests.

It’s the summer holidays after I’ve left  school and perhaps my periods have  stopped because I’ve been anxious  about my A-level results. Or perhaps not.

My suspicions that I am pregnant go beyond a missed period: I feel queasy in the mornings.

The pregnancy tests are positive. I run a deep bath, as hot as I can stand it, and drink neat gin until I am sick.

It says something about my teenage ignorance that I have resorted to an old wives’ abortion technique from the 19th century.

The only other one I know is throwing yourself down the stairs. I try that, albeit half-heartedly.

I do not feel a scrap of concern about terminating my pregnancy: I just want it to happen quickly.

The GP — again carefully chosen because he didn’t know my family — clearly doesn’t feel the same urgency. He arranges for the abortion to take place at the start of the second trimester, which is nearly two months after my visit to him. Looking back, it seems unimaginably cruel to have made a distraught 18-year-old wait so long for a termination.

WHAT IS UNIMAGINABLY CRUEL IS KILLING YOUR FETUS!

But this was 1987, and perhaps the emotional well-being of pregnant teenagers was low down his priority list.


'If only someone had told me then: 'This is your only chance to be a mother - it's now or never'

OH PLEZ, BITCH!


I couldn’t afford to have it done privately, and I certainly could not countenance my parents being involved.
Aside from my boyfriend — a boy from school I’d been seeing for a year — my only confidante was Helen, the woman whose children I baby-sat. I’d sit at her house dumping my every fear on her, then go home and pretend everything was normal.

At the time I was living with my mum — who was due to marry her partner of a year in just a few weeks — and my two younger brothers. My parents had separated when I was six and my father had since moved around the country in his job as a paediatric surgeon.

At first, I went with him, moving town every year or so, but when I was 11 I decided to live with my mother in Devon.

While our home was usually a happy one, during the weeks that I waited for the day of the abortion, important human relationships around me soured as the life inside me grew. A miserable holiday job as a kitchen porter in a Little Chef only made things worse.

My boyfriend turned out to be next to useless. Our relationship descended into the sort of screeching rows normally heard ringing around a sink estate.
Not mature enough: Kate as a teenager when she felt she wasn't ready to become a mother
Not mature enough: Kate as a teenager when she felt she wasn't ready to become a mother
Ironically, this was exactly where girls of my generation were told they would end up if they got pregnant when they were young and unmarried.

Pregnancy meant instant relegation to the bottom of the pile.

For me, it would have also meant being linked for ever to a man I then loved completely, in my innocence, but whom I later realised had a horrible streak I only exacerbated.

Yet if someone had told me then: ‘This is your only chance to be a mother — it’s now or never’, I suspect that between us, my mother and I would have made a fair fist of raising the child. Now, at the age of 42, it is the ‘if only I had known’ that haunts me. The idea that I passed up my only chance to have a child. If I dwell on this thought, it is disturbing, so I try to avoid it.

Eight weeks pregnant in a Laura Ashley dress, I was bridesmaid at my mother’s wedding. There is a picture of me talking to an elderly relative at the reception — with my peachy and ample embonpoint enhanced by all the hormones of pregnancy.

'At the time, terminating a pregnancy seemed far cleverer than pushing double buggies in small-town Devon'

A few days later, while waiting for my A-level results to arrive in the post, I flipped out. The stress exploded in the most violent way and I lashed out at my mother and then at my stepfather, as he tried to defend his new wife from this stepchild monster.


I ran to my room and cried. My mum came in and asked what was wrong. Even today, almost 25 years later, I can feel how visceral my shame was.

When she asked: ‘Are you pregnant?’ I said nothing, but let her cuddle me like a little girl while I bawled.

‘Please don’t tell Dad. Promise?’ I implored, over and over again.

She phoned and told him immediately; he made some calls and the date for the termination was brought forward. Mercifully, there were no recriminations, just swift action and quiet understanding.

Two weeks later, on a September morning, my mother accompanied me to Torbay Hospital, where I became a statistic, one of the 174,000 women who had a termination that year (interestingly, 10 per cent of them were overseas visitors — abortion tourists from countries with less liberal ideas).
Freedom: For teenage Kate, having an abortion was a relief but now she wonders what might have been
Freedom: For teenage Kate, having an abortion was a relief but now she wonders what might have been CAN YOU BELEIVE THIS STATEMENT? OR THE NEXT ONE? 

The euphoria far outweighed any physical discomfort when I left hospital. Any shame had gone, together with the nine-week old foetus: I was free again, I could breathe.
In fact, and rather alarmingly, I felt incredibly grown up. To my mind, the abortion was almost a rite of passage to being a proper woman.


Terminating a pregnancy seemed far cleverer than pushing double buggies in small-town Devon, which is what some of my peers were doing after their O-levels.

Today, I feel more emotional, guilty almost, about that bundle of cells I got rid of. In the bitterest of ironies, that terminated pregnancy remains the sum total of my reproductive history.
Throughout my adulthood, I have sometimes felt broody, but have never let myself

Using logic and reason, I pushed these instinctive urges from my mind: you don’t have enough money, you don’t have a solid relationship, you have no career stability, men can’t be relied on, you are too insecure.

The family unit — Mum, Dad, two children — looked dull, claustrophobic and suburban. I was in denial, but every now and again my real feelings would break through the tough-girl rationale.
Once, at a smart wedding in Northamptonshire when I was about 30, someone handed me a newborn baby and my skin broke out in hot hives.

In Brazil, I met a ten-year-old street kid. I fed him, let him sleep and shower in my hotel room, bought him clothes, and felt an overwhelming desire to protect and nurture him.

I had never before felt such a forceful maternal instinct. These events were profoundly physical reactions, both shocking to me.
Just around the time of my trip to Brazil, the ghost of my never-born came back to haunt me. I began imagining what he might have been like — a tall and sandy-haired boy, who would have been 17 at  the time. I was 35, the age when the  experts say your eggs and fertility start declining.

It’s embarrassing to reveal these visions of my never-born son, and important to understand their significance. This imagined son was not some moral spectre come to punish me; it was my subconscious reminding me to wake up and face reality.

My relationship with the boy responsible for that pregnancy lasted three years and ended badly. Since then, I’ve had nice enough relationships with some great men, but I never met someone I could settle with for longer than a couple of years. Yes, I was a commitment phobe.
Ironically, from the age of 35 my relationships became even more unsuitable: a married man, a boyish party animal, a confirmed bachelor.
Instead of trying to solve the problem, I was compounding it. Did I secretly not want children? More pathetically, I wonder if I thought that I didn’t deserve them.

A niece and two nephews arrived in my life, whom, to my surprise, I love to distraction. They have bought into even sharper relief the phenomenal love and caring instinct inside the average woman.

Family ties: Kate is grateful she at least has nieces and nephews in her life
Family ties: Kate is grateful she at least has nieces and nephews in her life
I am not one of those women who knows they don’t want children: my problem is that I never knew parenthood was something that a woman had to fight tooth and nail for.
Surely, I used to think, getting pregnant is as easy as falling off a log. Only for teenagers, though. For older women, it’s all about the costly indignity of the fertility medicine merry-go-round, which I simply can’t face — or afford.

To have a child at my age, it seems you have to want to get pregnant with the same zeal as the goons on The X Factor who chase fame — and I’m not made of that stuff.

The wider world has made me stop and think, too. The anti-abortion argument has been in the headlines: first, with MPs Nadine Dorries and Louise Mensch tabling amendments to the Health and Social Care Bill that would mean the introduction of independent abortion counselling; then with the arrival in Britain of aggressive, American Christian fundamentalist-style picketing of abortion clinics.

Louise Mensch’s sister, the author Tilly Bagshawe, got pregnant while at a smart boarding school.

Mensch used this to illustrate her understanding of the subject of abortion when I spoke to her about it for an article I was writing about women, work and fertility. She used her sister as an example of how a woman can have a child when she’s young and still  thrive.
Bagshawe was encouraged in her wish to keep the baby by her wealthy Roman Catholic parents, and went on to become a single parent while a student at Oxford.
I wondered what would have happened if someone had urged me not to have an abortion. Should I have done what Tilly Bagshawe did instead?

Her story illustrated what I was starting to obsess about: should I have let the fetus become a child? Clearly, Mensch would think I should have. However, my parents were not rich and I was not mature.
Among the few in my peer group who had babies as teenagers, there were three types: the daughters of the very rich for whom childcare would never be an issue; the bohemian spirits who were comfortable with breaking social norms; and the girls who smoked in the loos at school and left immediately after getting a few useless CSEs.

I was none of those girls, and while I admire Mensch, I don’t think her  family is typical. My story could well have been closer to the sink-estate stereotype.
The best way to answer the question: ‘Should I have been a teen mother,’ is by asking myself how I would advise a young girl in a similar situation.
If my beautiful, bright 17-year-old god-daughter, who longs to work for an economic think-tank, came to me, as I went to Helen all those years ago, and asked what she should do, I would advise her to have an abortion.

Recently, over dinner with my father, we talked about books and his obsession with the French thinker Michel de Montaigne.

I updated him on the film I’m making about my learning disabled brother. We gossiped about family, and I had a grumble about my relationship and the fact my boyfriend, a kind, funny and rather handsome chap, had told me that he didn’t want to have children with me.

Dad’s response took me by surprise. It was pragmatic, a clinical diagnosis of the problem as he saw it, as opposed to anything sentimental or morale-boosting. It was as if he was talking to one of his patients.
‘You have not conceived since your teens, despite not using contraception for some time, which would suggest you are not very fertile,’ he said.
‘Your only choice is to enter what I perceive as the dubious world of fertility medicine.

‘More than 40 years in medicine have left me with a disgust for the absurdity of terminating perfectly viable life in  the obstetrics department while down the corridor, in reproductive medicine, life is being forced into the bodies of women who are past their child-bearing prime.’
My father concluded: ‘However, I think you would make a very good mother. I might add that there are thousands of children who need adoptive parents.’

Hearing this didn’t feel too good at the time, but in hindsight I think his words were a gift. The ‘child’ I aborted is a ghost helping me to deal with the blunt truth of my situation. A truth my father astutely described.

This truth is one that a lot of women at the end of their fertile years are in denial about it, and it can be pathetic to watch their desperation. I will not let myself go to that place.
I was a teenager who got pregnant by accident and had an abortion, as any sensible girl did in those days.

I think about my lack of children, in a low-level way, all the time. That lack is always with me.

The alternative to parenthood is not yet apparent to me. Perhaps the authorities will consider me a useful adoptive parent. Perhaps my nieces and nephews will be spoilt for love.

For most people, the final years of life are all about immediate family. My old age could well be miserable. I was sitting at my granny’s side when she died: when I die, it’s quite possible there will be no one with me.

It would be easy to feel sorry for myself, to reproach myself for my decision to abort the baby I was carrying at 18 or to desperately chase the dream of motherhood at the age of 42.

Instead, I have decided to accept my situation with grace — it’s a hell of a lot cheaper than five rounds of IVF.


Is she Fucking Kidding me!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!? What kind of Grace is it that take's a fetus' life? And is she gretful that her abortion saved her money? WhaNt? I don't get it!

STUPIDIST STATEMENT EVER: "To my mind, the abortion was almost a rite of passage to being a proper woman."
now that's true mudinyoureyes!

Women! WHY DO YOU TRUST YOUR CHILDREN'S STEPFATHERS???????????

THIS MADE ME CRY!

Why did nobody save him? Boy, 10, who called 911 TWICE to report abuse is found 'bound, gagged and beaten to death by his stepfather'


  • Child Protective Services had several chances to remove Abdifatah Mohamud from the home
  • Police reported allegations of abuse to CPS, who are refusing to comment on case
  • Boy came to school in June 2011 with a swollen and bruised face
  • Coroner reported Abdifatah had been struck more than 70 times with a rolling pin
  • Told teachers at school he would 'be killed' if he performed badly in a test


By Rachel Quigley

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A ten-year-old boy's brutal death at the hands of his stepfather could have been avoided after it was revealed the boy called 911 twice in the past year to report abuse.

Abdifatah Mohamud, from Buffalo, New York, was found beaten to death in his family's basement last week. He was bound, gagged and struck repeatedly with a rolling pin.

Though the Buffalo Police Department is investigating how officers handled the calls, they did confirm they reported the allegations to Erie County Child Protective Services - who are accused of not doing enough to help the boy or remove him from the home.

They are refusing to comment on the case.

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Abdifatah, 10, was beaten to death by his stepfather
Tragic: Abdifatah Mohamud, ten, called 911 several times to report abuse at the hands of his stepfather Ali Mohamed Mohamud, who is now accused of beating him to death


Scene: Police sealed off the Buffalo home after they found Abdufatah tied to a chair, gagged and beaten to death by a rolling pin after his mother reported him missing

Scene: Police sealed off the Buffalo home after they found Abdifatah tied to a chair, gagged and beaten to death by a rolling pin after his mother reported him missing

A police department spokesman says the police commissioner ordered the investigation into 911 calls made in April 2011, when Abdifatah told authorities his stepfather Ali-Mohamad Mohamud was abusing him.

Officers responding to a missing child report last week found the boy's body. The 40-year-old security guard has pleaded not guilty to a second-degree murder charge.

The Buffalo News said that the officers who responded to the 911 calls immediately reported the allegations to Erie County Child Protective Services and made a domestic incident report, which they also passed on to CPS.

The agency failed to remove Abdifatah from the home after this report.

Peter Anderson, spokesman for Erie County Executive Mark C. Poloncarz, told the Buffalo News that confidentiality laws prevent him from commenting on any response by the county's Child Protective Services Division regarding Abdifatah.

He said: 'Personally speaking, I have children of my own, and as a father, this tears at my heart. However, because of state law, we can't comment on this case.'

Principal at International Preparatory School, where the ten-year-old was a fifth-grade student, said there were troubling warning signs, but the family did a good job of covering it up.

Kathy Jamil said in June 2011 he came to school badly beaten up with a swollen forehead and two swollen, black eyes. His father told his teacher he had been in a fight on the bus with another boy.
He had that day been 'horsing around' with another student but no one actually witnessed the alleged fight.

 Principal Jamil said: 'It was very suspicious. But because the student had admitted to wrestling with him and pushing him, it was very possible that he had just got hit the wrong way on the window.
'I tried to stress in him that he would be safe with me, and he said, "I just had a fight on the bus".'

CPS officials were also said to have investigated after the boy showed up severely bruised at school but never saw fit to remove him from the home.

Principal Jamil also revealed to WIVB 4 that Abdifatah would say alarming things like: 'I'm going to get killed, I'm going to be in so much trouble', but then would follow it by laughing so no one was really sure if he was telling the truth.
She said: 'The students, they've been saying, "Maybe we should have said this" or "Maybe we should have been asking more". The staff also wonders what they could have done differently.'


Accused: Ali-Mohamed Mohamud, a Somalia native, admitted killing his stepson because he was trying to discipline him over falling behind in his homework
Accused: Ali-Mohamed Mohamud, a Somalia native, admitted killing his stepson because he was trying to discipline him over falling behind in his homework


Principal at International Preparatory School where the ten-year-old was a fifth-grade student said there were troubling warning signs, but the family did a good job of covering it up
Haven: Principal at International Preparatory School where the ten-year-old was a fifth-grade student said there were troubling warning signs, but the family did a good job of covering it up
Warning signs: Kathy Jamil said in June 2011 Abdifatah came to school badly beaten up with a swollen forehead and two swollen, black eyes
Warning signs: Kathy Jamil said in June 2011 Abdifatah came to school badly beaten up with a swollen forehead and two swollen, black eyes

According to the police report filed last April with CPS, Somalia-born Mohamud explained to the investigating officers that his stepson was accusing him of child abuse because of issues over the boy doing his homework.

When he confessed to killing his son on April 17, he again said he was attempting to discipline his son, who he claimed was kicking him.

The 40-year-old admitted tying up his son's hands, tying him to a chair, sticking a sock in his mouth before duct-taping it shut and then beating him with a rolling pin. He said it was the first time he ever harmed the boy.

An autopsy found he had been struck 70 times.

'I was told it was one of the most grisly crime scenes that they can remember, and some have been here 40 years'


Police Commissioner Daniel Derenda

Police investigators were shocked over the viciousness of the beating, according to Buffalo Police Commissioner Daniel Derenda.
'Every homicide is bad, but it is particularly hard to deal with for first responders, police and others, when it is a ten-year-old child,' he said during a press conference. 'In talking to investigators, I was told it was one of the most grisly crime scenes that they can remember, and some have been here 40 years.'

It was spring break and Abdifatah had just returned from staying at a relative's house for a week when he was killed.

A neighbor, who did not want to be named, told officers she had seen him running for his life down the street. When she stopped to help him he told her: 'I don't want to go back with him.'

The stepfather caught up with them and told her he had fallen behind in his homework and was running away before asking if she could give them a ride home.

She agreed, telling Abdifatah: 'Your daddy says everything will be OK. If something happens come back and tell me tomorrow morning.'

'I may have been the last person to see him alive,' she admitted to police.
It was almost a year before his death that police were called to the house by the frightened ten-year-old, who told them he was being abused, calling back shortly after to tell them to hurry.

Officers reported they did not see any physical signs of abuse on the child when they arrived on April 18, 2011, though they did not ask him to take his clothes off for a closer examination.

According to the Buffalo News, Mohamud downplayed the boy's claims of abuse by saying he and his stepson were at odds over him doing homework.
School administrators and teachers said that Abdifatah was a good student who always submitted his homework on time. Two essays he wrote revealed he won awards for his work and was at one stage a top student in his class. He also said his teacher Miss Poole was his hero.

Mohamud is married to the boy's mother, Shukri, and both have children from previous relationships totaling six children, according to the Buffalo News.


DO YOU THINK THE MOTHER WILL STAND BY HER MAN?  

 

Does this Woman have any Brians?

Celebrity Justice  4/25/2012 3:06 PM PDT BY TMZ STAFF

Jason TrawickOfficially Britney's New Caretaker

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Britney Spears
' fiance Jason Trawick is officially the singer's newest conservator -- the judge in her conservatorship case just signed off on giving him legal power to govern Britney's affairs.

TMZ broke the story ... Britney's dad and conservator Jamie Spears filed the petition earlier this month, asking the court to add Jason as a co-conservator. We're told Britney also wanted Jason on board as co-conservator.

After the hearing, we overhead the lawyers say Jamie is "thrilled."

The move makes total sense ... considering the two are set to be married.

As co-conservator, Jason is now empowered to help decide how Britney will earn and spend her money -- including the $15 million deal she's about to sign with "X Factor."

Octomom Car is Smashed

Celebrity Justice4/10/2012 12:40 AM PDT BY TMZ STAFF

Octomom Ahole Smashes Car Window'Leave California or Die'

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The car belonging to Octomom had the window smashed.
Outrage over Octomom's decision to go on welfare has reached new violent heights -- because last weekend, some cruel jerkwad straight up SMASHED her car window ... and even left behind a handwritten death threat.

Nadya Suleman tells TMZ, she heard several strange noises outside her house early Saturday morning -- but brushed them off and went back to sleep. When she got out of bed at 9am, Nadya says her neighbors were at her door ... and informed her that her car window had been broken.

Whoever vandalized the car knew who his/her victim was too -- because the criminal left behind a handwritten note, reading, "Leave California or you will die."

Note to Octomom: Leave California or you will die.
Octo's father filed a police report after the incident. The investigation is ongoing.

Good Morning Octomom!

Octomom Investigated by Police

Woman claims that Suleman is an unfit mother 
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She's a human being that admitted she used bad judgement in her decision to have more children. But the kids are here now & Ms Suleman is just trying to keep food on the table.

Wednesday, April 25, 2012

Lady Gaga's New Clothes, Got to Love Her!


I LOVE LADY GAGA, HER CLOTHES ARE FABULOUS!

But what's up with Mr. Bug Eyes & the Pink tie guy?

Got to Love that Hair! The Mask, well I want to feel it! Touch it while she is wearing it..........& maybe the gloves..........Ok, keep the shoes on too!
Sorry, did I say that out loud?   heehee! Have a Greatful Day!

Lady Gaga

What kills 30,000 a year? Soybean Oil/Trans Fats!

YOU HAVE TO KNOW ABOUT THE DANGERS OF SOYBEAN OIL!

Please open this link & prepare to be blown away!
Mud only uses Olive Oil & 100% Corn Oil
 
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pp0nc4kY-tc&feature=player_embedded

3 More Years of Kardashian's

40 MILLION $$'S FOR 3 MORE YEARS OF THE KARDASHIAN'S


Really?
Enough Said!

Dead Body on Beach Not Dead! Good Morning, Have a Greatful Day!

Texas Man Saved From Death
As a volunteer deputy fresh out of the police academy, Wes Manion had seen enough dead bodies to know that the bloated man that had washed up on a Galveston, Texas beach was dead.

"I almost didn't do CPR,'' said Manion, 31. "It looked like he had been dead forever."

The man had a greenish hue and foam coming out of his nose and mouth. He certainly seemed dead, Manion said. Nevertheless, Manion pulled him on shore, cleared his airway and started doing chest compressions for several minutes, while he directed bystanders to help cut a bucket from the man's waist and untangle fishing wire from his wrist.

"My training kicked in. You can't not do it. You can't live with yourself if some guy dies and you didn't try," Manion said.

Miraculously, Jason Roy, a 28-year-old fisherman, spit out a bunch of water and began to breathe. Still unconscious, paramedics airlifted him to the University of Texas Medical Branch at Galveston, where a feeding tube was placed into his nose to harvest his organs since he was not expected to survive, Manion said.

If he did survive, doctors believed Roy would live in a vegetative state.
Just nine days later, Roy was standing, laughing and talking "like normal" to bestow a special honor on his hero.

Roy, the "walking miracle," pinned a badge on Manion's uniform Monday at an induction ceremony for a class of 12 new deputy constable in Harris County Precinct 6.

New deputies, who volunteer a few days per week, usually choose a friend or family member, someone who has made an impact in their lives. Manion chose Roy, calling the life-changing experience they shared "inspirational."
"It's all on him. I just did the compressions. Inside and out, he's a miracle," he said.

Roy said all he remembers is waking up in the hospital.

"Doctors are telling me that I am a miracle, that I should be on tubes and on a ventilator for the rest of my life. The best they looked for was brain dead," he told ABC affiliate KTRK.

Roy has a few broken or cracked ribs from where Manion did compressions, he said, but no other injuries, Manion said.

Not a day has gone by since Roy was released when the two haven't been in contact.

"He's a great guy. He's going to be a great friend to me," Manion said.

Have a "Greatful" Day!


Tuesday, April 24, 2012

Hello, A Little Help out here! I need an exterminator!

How do you get a dead possum out of the attic? This one's stuck to the floor, but still soft on the top part. Yuck, yuck, yuck, yuck, yuck, yuck, yuck!
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Help me. I need an exterminator!

For Crapping Sakes A Dead Possum- My Day!

Helping 90 year old Aunt clean up her home!

There was this big round, ugly, brown stain over my aunt's bed. Her daughter said, "Oh that's been there for ages, must be a leak in the roof." I had the handyman scrape, plaster & paint the spot. It looks very nice & clean.
I hired another handyman to go up into the attic. A dark, dusty, dirty space with air ducts, covered in some unwrapped insulating material layout like old,  crooked fingers. He wraps himself up in  overalls, gloves, mask, goggles & in he goes!
After 15 minutes he descends the ladder, with a large, double bagged, bag of crap! I mean real crap! Animal crap! He said on his quick exit, "I quit!"
He said there was a dead animal & it's family! & that, by the looks of it, they had lived there a long time!
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The intruder? Possibly a possum, and his family had dug out the insulation & made a nest. They also set up a crap heap! Real nice Cousins! There was NEVER a leaky roof. The handyman said, "The only leak was the leak from their pee pees!"
I gather my stuff & told the cousins, "Hey, I love you but.... with that dead animal in the attic I'm out of here!"
You tell me, how can people not know?

now this is true mudinyoureyes!

Lady GaGa Marry the Night! Fill all the Ugly Holes & Make them Beautiful

Lady Gaga’s ‘Marry The Night’ Video Inspired by ‘Worst Day of Her Life’ [Video]

 
 
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Lady Gaga gets naked, eats Cheerios, and gets in a car crash during her 13 minute “Marry the Night” video, and even though that sounds like a great time, Gaga says that the video was inspired by the worst day of her life.
 
Lady Gaga told E! News: “It was one of the worst days of my life and it happened quite quickly, but in my mind, when I think back on that period of my life, it all happened very slow.”
So what was the worst day in Lady Gaga’s life? The day that she saw her dreams slipping away from her. When she was dropped from Island Def Jam.
So is the video just her sitting in an office as some record exec tells her that she’s fired? Hardly. This is Lady Gaga’s artistic interpretation of the events. Gaga says at the beginning of the “Marry the Night” video:
“When I look back on my life. It’s not that I don’t want to remember things exactly the way they happened. It’s just that I prefer to remember them in an artistic way. And truthfully, the lie of it all is much more honest because I invented it.”
Here’s an interview that Lady Gaga did with E! about the inspiration for her new video.

The 13-minute video only contains about four minutes of music. The first 9-minutes show a pale faced Gaga lying in a hospital bed, practicing ballet, throwing a naked tantrum, and hanging upside down out of a car window.

The music starts at about the 9:00 mark.


What do you think about Lady Gaga’s new video? Do you think Lady Gaga is truly a “struggling artist?”

This is mudinyoureyes! Or, at least, Cheerios!
Have a Greatful Day!

Robert Griffin III, He'd rather be his own man.

Robert Griffin III learned early that he was destined to 'change the world of sports'


WACO, Texas – The holy man raised his hands over the children that night. And he closed his eyes and prayed for them until at last Bishop Nate Holcomb reached the 10-year-old boy whose parents had joined the church three years before. And as Holcomb placed his palm on the head of young Robert Griffin III, he felt a surge he's never been able to adequately describe.
"The hand of God is upon him," he told the boy's parents. "And God wants to shoot him as an arrow from his quiver."
Then the pastor, who didn't much follow sports, had a vision.
"He will do it through athletics," he said.
Robert Griffin III helped lead Baylor to a 10-3 mark in 2011. Jacqueline Griffin saw this as a prophecy. Her youngest child and only son was already a better basketball player than the other kids in their central Texas town of Copperas Cove. Soon he would thrive at track, running hurdles in a way no one around them had ever seen. Something in Holcomb's words in their church that night confirmed a sensation she already had. Standing beside her husband, Robert II, the one who was already training their son to be an athlete, she felt the same power as the pastor.
"I knew he was going to revolutionize and change the world of sports," she says. Robert Griffin III was taught to be his own man, a hard thing to become in a sport that demands conformity. Robert II and Jacqueline raised a son comfortable enough with himself that he can wear pink socks or sit for hours while his mother braids his hair and prays over him in a bonding routine they call "mommy time." They let him believe enough in his abilities that, as a teenager, he could eliminate colleges that didn't see him as a quarterback. They told him to not be afraid to be smart and so he graduated a semester early from high school and earned a degree at Baylor in three years.
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And they allowed him to become so confident that he could eventually say no to playing with Andrew Luck at Stanford and could consider quitting football for track.
When NFL scouts anonymously say they find Griffin "selfish" or "entitled," they might really be struggling with the idea of how a player largely unknown only a few months ago can seem this assured, as if he expected to win the Heisman Trophy. And when he says that he did – not in a boastful or arrogant way, but with a cold-eyed calm – the tendency is to doubt his sincerity. That is until you realize he has met every target he ever set for himself – running hurdles in the Olympic trials, playing quarterback in college, winning the Heisman, graduating early and being a projected high pick in the NFL draft – that he figures there's nothing he can't do.
"I don't think he's ever going to change," says Eastern Illinois head football coach Dino Babers, who was the receivers coach at Baylor the past four years. "He bends a little bit with who he is with, but his personality is so straight and the path he is going is non-winding. He sets a goal and meets a goal, sets a goal and meets a goal, sets a goal and meets a goal."




Griffin has a story about his father he loves to repeat. He thinks it summarizes the man's devotion and obsession. It happened when Griffin was 7 and he told Robert II he wanted to play basketball like Michael Jordan. The next day Robert II took Robert III to a basketball court behind a local junior high school and made him dribble left-handed for three hours until Robert III finally went home in tears.
Asked about this, Robert II chuckles.
"I think he's exaggerating that," he says.
The real story, Robert II continues, is that there were six baskets behind the school and he had his son move clockwise between them, making left-handed layups until he got to 120.
"I think he went through it pretty quickly," Robert II says. "It didn't take three hours."
Which is what it is like having an Army sergeant for a father.
Robert Griffin III with his dad Robert II. (Courtesy of the Griffin Family)Robert II controlled much of Robert III's athletic life from elementary school through high school and sometimes after that. The father believed in the power of video and showed his son endless tapes of Jordan, imploring him to emulate the moves until he had them right. And when Robert III showed an interest in football, Robert II told him he had to be a quarterback and pulled tapes of passers for every situation: Fran Tarkenton and Ken Stabler for elusiveness; Jim Kelly and Warren Moon for passing and his favorite of all – John Elway of his beloved Broncos for overall brilliance.
But just watching professional highlight tapes wasn't enough. Neither was the 2006 Michigan-Ohio State game Robert II recorded and had his son watch over and over before his high school games because he believed it the perfect example of two teams refusing to bend. He wanted video of his son that he could watch and critique. Since he worked during the days at nearby Fort Hood, he had Jacqueline – herself a retired Army sergeant – sit in a car outside football practices videotaping every play, providing fresh footage for the after-dinner film discussion.
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Robert II scouted his son like a defensive coordinator would. Often he'd stare at Robert III's cleats as they bounced on the grass, trying to predict if the boy would run or pass. If he guessed right, an adjustment needed to be made. And with Robert II, adjustments always needed to be made. He was forever scouring the tape, looking for flaws, mistakes, anything to be fixed.
Other families didn't understand. Parents made comments. They said the Griffins were getting in the way. They wondered why Robert II or Jacqueline had to be at all the practices as well as the games. They wondered why Jacqueline kept videotaping her son. They thought this strange and weird and more than a little monomaniacal.
But those parents didn't know what was being said when the Griffins were alone. They didn't know what Robert III was asking of his own family. They didn't know, for instance, that the day after being forced to take 120 layups left-handed and leaving the court in tears, he told his father he was ready to do it again.
"I wanted to be the best," Griffin says. "Maybe I didn't have the drive back then that I do now, but I definitely wanted to be the best. He pushed me because I wanted to be the best. He pushed me because I wanted to be pushed."
Maybe, too, there was this: Robert II didn't play organized sports as a child. Growing up in a housing project in New Orleans, he didn't have youth football leagues and youth basketball leagues. Like his son now, he too was his own man. A left-handed thrower, he longed to be a quarterback like his boyhood hero Stabler, but his high school coach didn't believe in left-handed quarterbacks and told Robert II if he wanted to play he would have to be a linebacker or running back or wide receiver. So Robert II chose not to play.
He went into the Army as an enlisted man and rose to sergeant. He worked supply jobs in the Army and played countless hours of basketball, which gave him a foundation in coaching fundamentals. On the first day of the second Iraq war, he was over the Kuwaiti border by dusk and saw things no one should ever have to see, things he doesn't want to talk about, things he has never told his children.
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So, yes, let the other parents complain. Let them ask their questions. Let them demand something less than the A's and B's Robert II and Jacqueline expected of their children's report cards. Robert III and his two older sisters were going to have a different life. They were going to have everything their parents wished they could.




Robert III nearly went to Stanford, and how would that have changed everything? The battle of Luck vs. Griffin wouldn't have been waged at the top of the draft but rather in a remote practice field under a Northern California sun. Luck had already committed to the school and yet the new coach, Jim Harbaugh, seemed intrigued with Griffin's potential. Robert II remembers Harbaugh promoting a dual quarterback system in which Luck played some downs as a traditional passer and Griffin came in as a mobile contrast.
Robert Griffin III poses with the trophy after Baylor's women's basketball team won the national championship. …Robert III hated the idea. He didn't want to share time with anyone. But he questioned a verbal commitment he'd given to Houston at the start of his senior year of high school. Houston didn't seem to have the academic heft he wanted. His dream was to go to law school, and Stanford, of course, has a law school. Robert II loved the thought of his son at a school like Stanford, and so, as Harbaugh kept calling, Robert II gently encouraged Robert III to accept the coach's offer of a visit.
Eventually Griffin agreed and it would become the only official visit he took to any school. He fell in love with the lush campus, the soft breezes and the professors he met. Harbaugh pulled him into an office and showed him tape of Josh Johnson, an NFL-bound quarterback he'd coached, and told Griffin he could be better than Johnson.
There was a point when Griffin felt close to committing: "It all sounded great. Jim Harbaugh is a great recruiter," he recalls.
But he also wanted a school where his high school teammates could follow him to college, and he couldn't envision many kids from Copperas Cove going to Stanford. Plus there was the issue of Luck. He didn't see how they could co-exist.
"I'm not saying who would have left because there's no telling who would have left," Griffin says. "I'm glad I trusted myself and decided not to go down that path and then be stubborn. Respect talent. Get respect where respect is due, but don't be caught up in yourself where you do things obliviously and not pay attention to what is going on."
In the end, he told Harbaugh no.
Griffin did not meet Luck until last December at the college football awards in Orlando, Fla., two days before the Heisman Trophy announcement. Already the Luck vs. Griffin debate was simmering and Griffin says he walked up to the Stanford quarterback and said: "I don't want to be your enemy." When Griffin was awarded the trophy that Luck presumably stayed an extra year in college to win, he asked the other finalists to join him in one of the two limousines the Downtown Athletic club provides the winner.
Robert and Jacqueline Griffin at a Baylor football game. (Courtesy of the Griffin fam …Griffin and Luck still talk even as Griffin has climbed from a possible first-round selection to close to a draw with Luck for the No. 1 pick. Griffin texts Luck his continued desire that they not be "enemies." He says the media is trying to portray them as foes and he doesn't like it. Nonetheless, the relationship is complicated. When Griffin talks about Luck, he calls the quarterback "my counterpart" as in: "Contrary to popular belief, I actually threw for more yards than my counterpart the last two seasons."
Looking back, there are so many connections, so many coincidences that Jacqueline believes Baylor and the Heisman were meant to be for her son. Before Griffin visited Stanford, he gave the verbal commitment to Houston because the coach there, Art Briles, had seen him enough as a passer to believe in him the way so many other colleges didn't. But Griffin didn't want to go to Houston, he wanted Baylor, which was closer and had a law school.
Later that fall, Briles landed the job as Baylor's head coach. Griffin – who felt ignored by the previous Baylor staff – changed his commitment. This freed Houston's redshirt freshman quarterback Case Keenum to start for four years, breaking several school records and become a finalist for the Davey O'Brien award as the best college quarterback in addition to being a later-round prospect in this week's draft.
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Keenum still texts Griffin, jokingly thanking him for not going to Houston.
"It's funny," Griffin says, "All three of us were finalists for the Dave O'Brien and two of us could have been on the same team."



There was also a time when Griffin wasn't sure he was going to remain a football player. It came in the summer of 2008, which was between his first and second semesters at Baylor and he had spent most of the spring – in what should have been his last months in high school – running track and playing football. Then at 18, he stood on the track at the Olympic Trials in Eugene, Ore., surrounded by Tyson Gay and Allen Johnson and Terrence Trammell and he wondered if maybe this should be his future.
Robert Griffin was times at 4.41 in the 40 at the NFL scouting combine. (Getty)Already, though, he had gone through a spring of football practice, putting on 25 pounds, absorbing hits and missing the months of endurance-building the other runners had done. They were lighter, more experienced and better conditioned than Griffin. He wasn't ready for that level of competition. It frustrated him. When he lost the 400 hurdles at Baylor's own Michael Johnson classic, by the tiniest of margins, he was devastated.
"You don't understand," he told Babers, who came to watch the race. "I've never lost a hurdles race before."
Babers laughs.
"That's Robert Griffin," he says.
A month later, he won the same race at the Big 12 Conference championships in Boulder, Colo. The month after that he was in Eugene, where he missed the final of the 400 meters by one spot.
"It was an eye-opener to go out and not just compete but to win against some of the best in the world," Griffin says. "It showed me how world class I actually was. It showed me my future was bright at that time, not just in track [but] school, football, whatever it is I wanted to do. That showed me I could go out there and compete at the next level."
He returned that fall to football, determined to win the starting quarterback job as a freshman, play a season and see how he felt about football and track. He got the job and Baylor went 4-8. But it was "a good 4-8," he says, with several losses coming in games the Bears led and should have won. This gave him hope they could be really good really soon. "When I came back it hooked me," he says. "There's something about football that's exciting. The defense is trying to shut you down and you're trying to blow people up."
But, how close was he to quitting football for track?
"If it wasn't the type of 4-8 season we had, I probably wouldn't have come back," he says.
Baylor track coach, Todd Harbour, who talked a great deal with Griffin about the subject, agrees.
"I think it was right down the middle," Harbour says. "He loved track."
In spring 2011, Griffin tried to run track again. It was late in the season and he had only gotten bigger and stronger from football. He had good times, even with the football weight, but he came out too late to get into optimum track shape. Still, he speaks cryptically about track as if his fascination with the Olympics, or even a track career, isn't over.
"As long as I can run fast, track will always be an option," he says. "But right now I'm focused on football because the NFL is knocking on my door and I'm not going to slam it in its face."



And yet the moment that might have defined Griffin most, that brought him to the door of the Washington Redskins, came not on the field or the NFL scouting combine or the Downtown Athletic club in New York where they handed him the Heisman. Instead, it was early in his sophomore season at Baylor when he tore the ACL in his right knee. As the doctors told him how badly he was injured, he remembers staring into the eyes of his parents and his girlfriend, Rebecca Liddicoat, seeing their worry for him and being hit with this horrible feeling of having let everyone down.
Before, he had been a runner who could also throw. Right then he knew he was going to be something more, something bigger. He would be a great passing quarterback who could run as fast as men in the Olympics. There had never been anyone quite like that. He would be the first.
"I wanted to be my own breed of quarterback," he says.
He is sitting in a Baylor conference room as he says this. It is the same room where four months ago he met each prospective agent: from Drew Rosenhaus, who plastered the room with signs, to his actual selection, Ben Dogra, who simply handed him a book describing the agency. He smiles slightly because, more than anything else, the decision to go from a runner who could throw to a thrower who could run was what brought him to this point.
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In the weeks after the surgery, Robert II drove the 45 minutes from Copperas Cove to Waco, took a stool from Robert III's apartment and drove his son, still on crutches, to the parking lot behind Baylor's basketball arena. There he had Robert III sit on the stool and throw a football over and over: 20, 30, 40, 50 yards. The leg might be damaged, but the arm was fine. Robert III still couldn't walk, but it was never too soon to begin his reinvention.
Robert Griffin with his mom Jacqueline."You don't have to go out there and fit the mold of what a quarterback is supposed to be," says Griffin, who passed for more than 10,000 yards and rushed for more than 2,000 in college. "Make your own mold and do the best at each role. If you can run with the best and throw with the best, you can be the best quarterback in your own version of the position." But he is about more than just football, which given his sudden rise to the Heisman and top of the draft, is something people don't realize. He used to write poetry and still wants to go to law school. He doesn't talk much about his faith because he believes that is private, but one Baylor coach says: "He's as much like Tim Tebow as Tim Tebow, he just isn't public about it."
Griffin and Liddicoat became engaged last fall after the Kansas State game when he nervously asked her to a team function at Baylor's indoor practice facility. Inside the building was dark, candles had been set around the field, a friend played the guitar and Griffin sang a song he had written for her three years earlier. Then he dropped to a knee on the center of the field. She said yes before she even saw the ring.
Now he is in that very indoor field, doing a photo shoot for yet another endorsement as a group of Baylor football players run wind sprints nearby. "Remember us, Robert?" one shouts. "We used to be your teammates."
Griffin smiles and shakes his head. No, he hasn't forgotten. He doesn't want to be like that. Outside in the parking lot is the same blue Chrysler Pacifica that he's been driving for years. He seems uninterested in anything new and shrugs when asked if he will buy a new car once he gets to the NFL.
It's not that important, he says.

He'd rather be his own man.